BDSM Glossary of Terms

Abuse - mistreating another person either by mental or physical cruelty, usually on a normal basis and against their objections. The big difference between BDSM and abuse is the major factor that in BDSM it's consensual while the latter isn't.

Age Play - occurs between two or more adults which involve adopting different roles in order to act out a fetish which is based purely on age. A couple of the most common roles is daddy/daughter or teach and naughty schoolgirl.

Anal Training - a fetish or sexual practice which revolves around the anus.

Animal Play - is consensual role playing among two or more adults which of at least one of the participants pretend to be an animal such as a horse or dog, but should not be confused with the practice of bestiality since this does not include any real animals.

BDSM - term used to bring together the individuals who indulge in a lifestyle or activities that includes BD (bondage and discipline), D/s (Dominance and Submission), and SM (Sadomasochism).

Bestiality - includes sexual intercourse or sexual activities which includes an animal and a person.

Bondage - occurs when a person is rendered helpless by some type of device or restraints. For many the thought of being overpowered and have no chance of escaping is a turn on while others involved may find the physical part of it erotic.

Boundaries - which may also be referred to as "limits" and are the personal lines in which people are not open to discussing or experimenting which often include things such as animals, children, scat, blood sports or other situations or subjects that either the submissive or dominant are either repulsed or frightened by.

Butt Plugs - are often used for anal play or training. The nerve endings located in the anus area for both men and women can be easily aroused if done right. Butt plugs are normally inserted into the anus which will help to stretch the tight ring of the sphincter (anal muscle). The butt plugs allow the muscles to be stretched which will allow widths to be increased for easier anal play. Some individuals may even enjoy the butt plug in itself as a full sensation is given.

Cat-o-nine tails - is a leather whip which has nine thongs and often used in the form of punishment or spanking and at times may even strip the skin from the body.

Clamps - is a mechanical device which can be purchased in various sizes and shapes but are all designed in order to cause pain either through squeezing or pinching. This may include crocodile clips, nipple clamps or clothes pin that can be applied to the vulva, balls, cocks or nipples. For those who desire or want to cause extreme pain may even attach weights to the clamps.

Cock and Ball Torture - often referred to as CBT is the involvement or torture in erotic play including the male cock and balls. This may include methods that involve clips, clamps, and tight bindings of different sorts, whips, electrodes and crops. For those who may be considered hard core may even include nails or other severe forms of punishment.

Cockrings - are simply rings that are placed around the cock usually around the base and behind the balls. This will cause the cock to become erect due to the blood vessels being restricted and causing the erection to swell. This can be used as an aid for impotence or ED (erectile dysfunction) or just to help increase the pleasure of an erection.

Collar - a collar is worn in BDSM which is similar to a dog collar which is to be worn to show that someone is owned and submits often in either a Master/slave or Dominant/slave relationship. It can be worn for play or for permanent relationships to show ownership. The collar is often made out of chains or leather or a mixture.

Collaring - occurs when either a Master or Dominant decides that they want to be committed to their slave and will often have a ceremony similar to a wedding but without any legal documentation. The slave will be physically collared with a personalized collar and openly gives themselves to their new owner.

Cross Dressing - is simply when one gender dresses in the clothes of the opposite sex either because it's a fetish for them or an order by the dominant.

Discipline - simply means to train your submissive or slave to obey you using a form of punishment to correct any bad behavior.

Dominance - is basically when one person has power over another which may be in the form of role play or a real lifestyle in which the dominant has a slave or submissive which obeys their every command.

D/s - is short for domintation and submission which may often be capped with a D and a lower case s D/s.

Fetish - usually used to describe a sexual fixation of an object or activity which may stem from childhood. Some of the most common fetishes include leather, shoes, feet, small furry animals, dirty panties, rubber, latex and even corsets.

Golden Shower - is when a person urinates on another which may sexually arouse one or both parties involved.

Humiliation - usually involves one person who becomes aroused by either being humiliated or by humiliating others. This can be done by the Dom making her slave do things they would not normally do or engage in embarrassing sexual acts.

Limits - is boundaries in BDSM that should be set by all parties involved and should not be pushed or crossed. This may include things that you do not want to do or places that you may not want to go.

Mommy - a dominant female or someone who plays the maternal role when relating to their sub/slave.

Role Play - is when two or more consensual adults engage in a variety of roles in order to act out sexual fantasies such as school teacher/naughty school girl, daddy/daughter, doctor/nurse, and mommy/son or even a rapist and victim.

Torture - a word in BDSM used to describe the severe punishments which are used by the Master or Dominant often for sexual pleasures.

Training - is when the Master or Dominant seeks to modify their slave's attitude, behavior and responses with systematic training.